This past week was one of the busiest of the summer, filled with my first taste of Himalayan food, an Independence Day party at the US Embassy, an 80-cent haircut, and most importantly, Spider-Man! The new Spider-Man movie, not yet out in the US, is playing in India, so I took full advantage. We went to a movie theater in a staggeringly upscale mall. It was quite a transition to go from a rickshaw surrounded by begging street-children to an air-conditioned mall with a coffee-bean and a gourmet food bazaar.
I didn’t travel anywhere this week, so this seems like a good opportunity to write some notes about the office culture here. I'm going to miss the 1030 and 330 tea breaks in the office, as well as the proliferation of lizards. (I can’t really write about the work itself.) Most of what I learn about India I learn from my coworkers:
· My host organization works to protect Dalits (also known as “untouchables”) from caste discrimination. Many of my coworkers are Dalits and have first-hand experience with discrimination. One told me that university officials refused to let him register for classes. Another told me that 500 to 600 angry upper-caste villagers surrounded his mother – the only literate woman in her village – when she tried to take water from the village well. My coworker was 7 years old at the time. I can see how that might leave an impression on someone.
· One of my coworkers lives with his parents (very common here) as well as his wife and three-year-old daughter. I asked him his daughter’s name, and he responded, “She doesn’t have one yet. I think we should give her one before she starts school.” Later, he invited me to his home. As we hurtled in a shared rickshaw along a crowded and dusty Indian street, he leaned over and said, "Don't worry, my place is much nicer than this area." Then we pulled up in front of his place to find a water buffalo grazing outside. Sometimes I really love India. His mother and wife served plates and plates of delicious food (primarily fish and pumpkin dishes) while his daughter, terrified, ran away from me. I couldn't get them to stop serving food until I realized the pattern: if you don't want more of something, don't finish it.
· Another coworker brought in his daughter, who is about seven years old. I told her that she spoke English very well, and she replied, “You’re different than me. I’m Bengali.” Then she literally stuck a piece of chocolate in my mouth, so I guess different isn't a problem.
· Several coworkers asked when I’m getting married – not if, but when, as if everyone has this date on their calendar. One coworker is engaged, and I asked if it was arraigned or a “love marriage.” He told me that his marriage is arranged, and he has yet to speak to his fiancée. I’m curious how that will go.
· My coworkers had varying reactions to learning that I’m Jewish. By far the most common reaction: “Oh, you mean like the movie? The Ten Commandments?” I’m also learning some Indian English lingo. “In a family way” = pregnant. “Fully set” = drunk.
Pictures: 1) At my desk, with a coworker. 2) US Ambassador to India at the US Embassy. 3) Independence Day fireworks at the US Embassy.